Q: Who gets invited to the rehearsal dinner? My finance and I have differing opinions about who all should be invited. Please help!
A. This can be a tough call especially when you have a lot of out-of-town guests that may want to spend time with you before the big day. Traditionally, a rehearsal dinner guest list would include the bride and groom, their immediate families, the bridesmaids, groomsmen, ushers, flower girl(s), ring bearer(s) (with their adult supervision), your officiant and spouse if applicable. In some cases, cultural or religious factors may influence your guest selection as well.
Many couples option to have their formal rehearsal dinner at a more upscale restaurant and hold it to the list above and then invite additional family and friends to meet up afterwards at a restaurant’s bar for more pre-wedding toasts and fun. This allows the out-of-town guests time to get settled without feeling like they are cooped up in their hotel room all night waiting for the wedding the next day. This was what my husband and I chose to do and it worked out fine.
Another option is to have your rehearsal dinner two nights before the wedding allowing the couple to hang out with the out-of-town guests the night before the big day. You could also ask a relative or friend to host a cocktail party or low-key event for out-of-town guests so your arriving guests have something to do.
My personal feeling is that your out-of-town guests will be fine entertaining themselves because most people know that he rehearsal and rehearsal dinner happen the evening before the wedding.
Ultimately there is no right or wrong answer here.