Gunpowder & Lace: Just the Beginning…
I don’t know about you, but I started planning my wedding as soon as I was old enough to know about weddings. To me, it was all about the bride! I started dreaming about the big poufy gown, walking down this long isle to my prince, and then we’d live happily ever after! After all, that’s how all of the Disney Princess movies end. How we’ve all been brain-washed all of these years.
So, as this little girl, I thought about colors, season of the year, weather, etc… I always wanted a winter wedding. The horse-drawn carriage in the snow, a white picket fence around an old church, and the fence was wrapped with winter greens…the sidewalks were swept clean, but it didn’t look shoveled.
Of course, I’d wear a white gown with a white muff, carry a bouquet of red roses with winter greens…(I obviously didn’t think through the thought of how to carry flowers while having my hands in a muff!) The bridesmaids would wear red dresses and carry Christmas colored flowers, while the groomsmen would wear black suits with red ties and red roses on their lapels. My groom would wear a black suit, black tie, crisp white shirt and a black vest. The church would be softly lit with loads of candles, and the decorations would be simple…Poinsettias! Wow. Thankfully, my wedding was in July and NOT during the winter months. I often question my judgment when thinking back over wedding ideas that I had…I think it was the red dresses & ties!
I know, what does any of this have to do with Gunpowder & Lace…nothing.
However, YOU are now the bride. You’ve been planning your perfect, pink, shimmering wedding since you can remember; thinking of the perfect venue, what your gown would look like, what your groom would look like, and then planning the rest of your perfect life!
You’ve found your groom, the love of your life, and you can’t wait to marry him. Only issue is…he’s a guys guy. He doesn’t like to get dressed up past a pair of jeans and shirt, doesn’t care if his boots match his belt, or even if his hair is fixed just right before walking out the door…but you don’t care, because he’s gorgeous; and he’s yours!
He’s the lets gown down and dirty, ruggedly handsome kinda guy that we all dreamed of marrying. Tall & dreamy, eyes that make you melt, a scruffy but trimmed face…yeah, he’s that guy. He’s the type to hang out with his buddies on Saturday morning, but can’t wait to take you out on Saturday night. Probably won’t see him in church on Sunday morning, but for certain he’ll do anything in the world for you…even wear a suit!
He’s the reason that you’re looking at this blog. He picked you, YOU, out of the entire world to marry. He wants to spend the rest of his life with You! (And we’re all a little jealous about it!)
And then, there is you…a girlie-girl. The kind of girl that you won’t see putting on camouflage and heading out into the woods at 4:53 am to get all set up for a big day of hunting, nor would you be putting on your gloves and cutting firewood. You’re the girl that is going to get all dolled up for a day of shopping, lunch and a mani/pedi to top it off. You’re ALL girl, ALL the time.
You keep hairspray & makeup in your purse, and touch up in between stops. You’re all about the latest fashions, shoes & jewelry. Your fiancé is a lucky man to be marrying a girl that takes pride in being a girlie-girl.
You’ve been preparing and planning for this pink, sparkly, girlie-girl wedding…but he wants nothing to do with that. He wants something more masculine with dark colors, guns & metal. You start to question what you really have in common…how you are going to make marriage work if you can’t even compromise on a wedding! Ah.
Take a deep breath…we’ve got an idea!
**What ideas do you have on helping this couple?