You’ve got the venue, caterer, photographer and DJ booked. The dress is in and you are soon starting your fittings. The guys have their tuxes ordered and you sent your save the dates out a few months back. Now it’s time to think about the wedding invitations. You’ve spent hours browsing Pinterest and other websites and you think you’ve found the perfect option but you have no idea what it should say.
While choosing the proper wording for your wedding invitation suite can be a bit tricky, the process does not need to be stressful. The most important thing to remember is that the wording should always reflect the overall style of your special day.
GENERAL WEDDING INVITATION WORDING GUIDELINES
If you aren’t sure, you can always check with your officiant for any specific information on style but traditionally if a couple gets married in a church or other house of worship, the request line wording reads “request the honor”.
All words, dates and numbers are typically written out. The only abbreviations typically on a wedding invitation are Mr. and Mrs.
Punctuation is typically found only in the time, date or in the location.
If the bride’s parents are hosting and the daughter shares their last name, it can be omitted from the invitation.
Monogram | Wedding Logo
While not required, monograms and wedding logos can help brand a wedding and maintain consistency throughout all wedding stationery. When
used, they are often placed prominently at the top of the wedding invitation as the sample shows.
Host Names | Introduction
The first line(s) is/are where you indicate who is hosting the wedding. Historically, the bride’s family always hosted (paid for) the wedding. This is
often not the case today so you must decide if you (the couple) are sharing that honor with anyone else including sets/singles of parents. The word
“and” between two names traditionally implies that those people are married. Names of unmarried hosts or guests should be stacked.
If you, the couple, wish to invite your guests yourself “Andrea and Steven invite you to…” would be acceptable. The most common, general line
would be “Together with their families…”
This may come before or after the couple’s names depending on the wording of the invitation. This is where you actually invite your guests.
“Request the honor of your presence” is typically reserved for a church or place of worship. “Request the pleasure of your company” is often used
for a more secular wedding though this can be whatever the couple wishes. You may use “honor” or “honour”, just be sure to match your RSVP card
with “favor” or “favour”.
The Couple |Names
Traditionally the bride’s name goes first and if her parents are in the host line, her last name should be left off. If the couple is two brides, or two
grooms or the couple simply wants to put the groom’s name first, this is perfectly fine too. The couple should also decide if they want to include
middle names and/or last names. While we feel middle names are completely optional, Raspberry Creative does recommend using last names.
This line may be with the invitation line as the example shows but it may also be separate. This is the line that tells people what they are being
invited to. Traditionally if the bride’s parents are hosting, a common action line would be “at the marriage of their daughter”. Other common action
lines are “at the celebration of their marriage”, “as they tie the knot”, “as they celebrate their marriage vows”.
Depending on the level of formality, abbreviations are not recommended. Traditionally, middle names, street information, states, months and days
are all written out. If the invitation is meant to be more casual and abbreviations preferred, be sure to remain consistent throughout the entire
invitation suite. Raspberry Creative also recommends keeping the information clean and simple so your guests don’t have to guess at what you
This simple line serves as an indication of what your guests should expect for the party to follow. If the wedding and reception are being hosted
in the same location, there is no need for a reception card or details card. You can simply say “reception to follow” or “dinner and dancing to
follow” You can also get creative if you wish or be more speicific, “cake punch and revelry to follow”, “Join us for an intimate dinner following the
ceremony”, “Confetti and magic to follow”.
Formal and/or traditional weddings being held in a church and hosted by the divorced parents of the bride – include parents’ names on separete
Use similar format to divorced parents with parents on separate lines.
Coming up….we’ll be sharing the same tips and etiquette for your RSVP, Accommodations and other Enclosure Cards.
If you have more questions or still aren’t sure, our experienced and friendly creative team can work with you one-on-one to personally help you decide what wording speaks to you and your special day!
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