The rules of wedding etiquette are ever changing and we know that it can be difficult for today’s brides, grooms and their guests to find the correct, most up-to-date information. That’s why we are excited to launch #RaspberryWeddiquette, a weekly series in which we ask our clients, followers on Twitter and Facebook, etc. to submit their most burning etiquette-related questions. We’ll compile them and together, our experienced team of experts will provide you with clear answers on your biggest, Wedding Day dilemmas! You can send your questions via Facebook or tweet us @RaspCreative with the hashtag #RaspberryWeddiquette.
Another great topic for this week…Personalize Vows
Vows are one of those things that you just can’t NOT do in a wedding. It’s like, you can’t get married without a marriage license kinda’ thing. Here are some “traditional” wedding vows that can be found by typing “Traditional Wedding Vows” in your Google search bar.
Basic Protestant Vows
“I, ___, take thee, ___, to be my wedded husband/wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part, according to God’s holy ordinance; and thereto I pledge thee my faith [or] pledge myself to you.”
“______, wilt thou have this woman/man to be thy wedded wife/husband to live together after God’s ordinance in the Holy Estate of matrimony? Wilt thou love her/him? Comfort her/him, honor and keep her/him, in sickness and in health, and forsaking all others keep thee only unto her/him as long as you both shall live?”
“In the name of God, I, ______, take you, ______, to be my wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and health, to love and to cherish, until we are parted by death. This is my solemn vow.”
“In the name of God, I, ______, take you, ______, to be my wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until we are parted by death. This is my solemn vow.”
“______, wilt thou have this woman/man to be thy wife/husband, and wilt thou pledge thy faith to him/her, in all love and honor, in all duty and service, in all faith and tenderness, to live with her/him, and cherish her/him, according to the ordinance of God, in the holy bond of marriage?”
“I, ______, take you, ______, to be my wife/husband, and these things I promise you: I will be faithful to you and honest with you; I will respect, trust, help, and care for you; I will share my life with you; I will forgive you as we have been forgiven; and I will try with you better to understand ourselves, the world and God; through the best and worst of what is to come, and as long as we live.”
Nondenominational Wedding Vows
“I, ______, take you, ______, to be no other than yourself. Loving what I know of you, trusting what I do not yet know, I will respect your integrity and have faith in your abiding love for me, through all our years, and in all that life may bring us.”
“______, I take you as my wife/husband, with your faults and your strengths, as I offer myself to you with my faults and my strengths. I will help you when you need help, and turn to you when I need help. I choose you as the person with whom I will spend my life.”
As the world keeps evolving, so do marriage vows. Here are some really cute ones that I pulled off of the internet.
Kristin and Josh
(to each other) *Found on TheKnot.com
“I believe in you, the person you will grow to be and the couple we will be together.
With my whole heart, I take you as my wife/husband, acknowledging and accepting your faults and strengths, as you do mine.
I promise to be faithful and supportive and to always make our family’s love and happiness my priority. I will be yours in plenty and in want, in sickness and in health, in failure and in triumph. I will dream with you, celebrate with you and walk beside you through whatever our lives may bring. You are my person—my love and my life, today and always.”
Laine and Shane
(to one another) *Found on TheKnot.com
“I promise to be your lover, companion and friend,
Your partner in parenthood,
Your ally in conflict,
Your greatest fan and your toughest adversary.
Your comrade in adventure,
Your student and your teacher,
Your consolation in disappointment,
Your accomplice in mischief.
This is my sacred vow to you, my equal in all things. All things.”
Anne & Gabrielle
(to one another) *Found on TheKnot.com
“I take you to be my partner for life
I promise above all else to live in truth with you
And to communicate fully and fearlessly,
I give you my hand and my heart
As a sanctuary of warmth and peace
And pledge my love, devotion, faith and honor
As I join my life to yours.”
I do love these “non-traditional, heart-felt vows”, but I also find it to be a dis-heartening when I don’t hear people tell each other “Until Death Do Us Part.” Makes me feel like, when the going gets tough…I’m going. Whatever happened to sticking it out…fighting the good fight…though the good times and bad. Maybe it’s just me, but I think that when people say “Until Death Do Us Part” it makes you think long and hard about saying, “I Do”.
Whatever vows you decide that you want to share with “Your Love” make them personalized to you. If your church requires you to say something, by all means; honor that, but you could also say something in addition to that. Maybe it’s something that you want to say but can’t say it in-front of all of your guests, write it down and give to your love before the wedding. Maybe it’s something that you’ll want to share at your reception. Whatever the case may be, we wish you all the best in your new life together!